Wipe your slate clean

The thoughts you think every day are some of the biggest blockades to your success.

The same messages are swirling round and round the mental merry-go-round you have upstairs. I honestly think that most people aren’t aware that they can slow down the momentum of their thoughts, or stop the ride altogether.

The thing is, most of the thoughts you think didn’t even come from your own mind – they passed to you from the opinions and actions of others. How many times have you heard the following:

  • money doesn’t grow on trees
  • you have to work smarter, not harder
  • no pain, no gain
  • the only way I’ll date (insert ethnic group that’s not your own) men is if they look like (insert ridiculously fine actor).
  • I’m just gonna wait on the Lord
  • black people don’t do that
  • those (insert ethnic group that’s not your own) will put up with more than black women will
  • I’ll only do it if it fulfills God’s purpose for my life
  • only rich or lucky people live that way
  • I have to prepare for a husband

Were any of these familiar thoughts ones you originated? Or did your mom, friends, teachers, significant other and coworkers repeat them until they stuck with you?

Think about it for a second.

Why are we defining our lives using someone else’s thoughts? Or using criteria that helped people survive in the past, but are not relevant today? Or, even more important, are a part of a guerilla marketing plan to keep people where the marketers want them to be (following the latest diet fad, contributing to their cause, or following their system instead of someone else’s)?

How To Wipe Your Slate

Simply put, question the generalizations and preconceived notions that come to your mind. How is money the root of all evil? Why do some people get ahead and others don’t – is it really luck or are there other factors at play? Where are some of these sayings located in the Bible? Ultimately, who determines how things are supposed to be, and do they always correspond to that person’s idea? If they don’t, why don’t they? Could it be that you’re the exception to the rule – or that the pre-conceived rule doesn’t actually exist?

Alot of the tenets behind improving your mindset involve getting a grip on what’s floating through your mind. And one way to control those thoughts is recognize when they’re not even your thoughts. Once you do that, endeavor to define those thoughts as uniquely your own. The case may be that you believe the thought and want it to remain. There’s nothing wrong with that at all, as long as you consciously choose the thought and not just accept what’s been forced upon you by society.

8 thoughts on “Wipe your slate clean

  1. I just laughed as I read some of those. I have heard them all my life and MOST of the time, I have heard it from Black people. What’s up with that? Do white people say these things to their kids/friends?

    My favorite one is “waiting on the Lord.” I don’t know what that means. Literally, it sounds like people are waiting for a miracle to happen without putting in the work. Add to that, only doing something if it fulfills God’s purpose. But do we really KNOW what his purpose is for us? I mean how many people can say that they do? I suppose if things don’t go the way they should, then that’s a sign right? wrong? (shrugs.)

    I am a Christian and I believe in God, but I just don’t believe in “name dropping” the Lord’s name. You know?

    And as someone who loves without color and supports interracial dating, I really laugh at the one where “they’ll only date someone (of a different ethnicity) if they…..(insert absurd, non-realistic quality here)…”

    1. They say some of them – “money doesn’t grow on trees” and “money is the root of all evil” being two I’ve heard from non-black people.

      Daneesha my guess is that ‘waiting on the Lord’ means to just ‘pray on it’ and see what happens. And exactly as you said, if God doesn’t bring it to you, then you can’t really be mad or blame yourself, b/c it wasn’t part of His ‘plan’.

      I have a theory on what our purpose is for being here, but I feel like its an unpopular one that people won’t want to hear.

  2. his is a great post and a lot to chew on. the thing is, even once you realize that “you are not your thoughts,” you have to understand how not to engage them. But you’re right – you have to realize that you are not your thoughts or anyone else’s before you can make any headway at all.

    1. thanks Tiff, and you’re exactly right. Its the practice part that’s a bit… hard isn’t the right word. You just have to get used to turning a thought on its head immediately after you think it.

      So often we just run on autopilot, and don’t even realize how our mind and our thoughts rule us, not the other way around…

  3. Love this! A lot of the thoughts that I’ve received from others concerns a lack of money/resources. It’s not easy, but I work daily to retrain my thoughts to abundance instead of lack.

    Thanks for this reminder!

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