Reclaim Your Dreams: An Uncommon Guide to Living On Your Own Terms
by Jonathan Mead
Why I wanted to read this book: I came across an interview that the author did on IncomeDiary.com. The interview initially caught my attention because the book The 4-Hour Workweek was one that changed my mindset in terms of internet business; the subtitle of the interview is “Zero Hour Work Week Maverick Reveals His Secrets To Living Life On Your Terms”. So if Tim Ferris came up with the 4-Hour Work Week, and Mead claimed to be the Zero Hour Work Week Maverick, I wanted to see how it was done.
I found Mead’s interview to be very insightful and motivating – so much so, that one of his quotes on becoming your own boss hangs in my cubicle at work:
I personally believe the biggest attribution to making this happen for myself was knowing 100% without a doubt that this was going to happen. It was only a matter of time and I would do whatever it took and I would try everything that I possibly could try. I would fail over and over if that’s what needed to happen, but I knew that it was going to happen, that it was just a matter of time.
How inspiring is that?!
- Premise of the book: we’ve all been domesticated into settling for security instead of following our hearts and pursuing our dreams. Mead promised to show us how to get past limiting beliefs, get back to our authentic selves and pursue our passions.
- You should read it if: you want to cultivate a different mindset than the one held by mainstream society; you want to motivate yourself to change the way you think; you want to get closer to what’s authentically you and farther away from societal constructs of what life is supposed to be like.
- You shouldn’t read it if: you pretty much already know who you are, where you want to be and how to get from where you are to the end result.
Now you might be wondering why I gave this 4 stars instead of 5. The book is divided into 2 parts: part 1 is letting go of the thoughts that are holding you back and part 2 is making it happen. I read alot of material like this and of course write a bit of it here. So I didn’t find anything new in terms of motivation, but that doesn’t mean that the next person won’t. Its just that I’m already familiar, from my own way of thinking, of where Mead was going with the first half of the book. Also, I thought he should’ve gone into more detail about methods of changing one’s thoughts, instead of just explaining that you need to. Overall though, you might not find what I say as motivating as what he’s written in part 1, so I would encourage you to check it out for yourself. Besides that though, I really enjoyed this book, especially the ways in which Mead really prompts you to make this journey to authenticity a commitment to yourself.
As wonderful as I think the book is, one of the benefits of Mead’s book is that he now offers worksheets to go along with it. So you can follow along and complete the exercises as you go, and you can also use the prepared worksheets to answer his questions in the book and other supplemental questions that are a part of the worksheets. I thought this was a really cool thing to provide, because the majority of the time when reading books like this, you’re just absorbing the thoughts of the author with the intention to go back and do the exercises. The worksheets make that so much easier to do the first time around.
Points I took away from the book:
- Success is happiness in the present moment. “Realize that the winner in life is not the one that accomplishes most; it’s the person who enjoys their life fully that’s most alive.”
- Tips on how to remove the background noise that’s getting in the way of what really matters.
- Don’t follow the pre-made template of life if its not making you happy.
- We’ve been conditioned to doubt ourselves and seek security above passion and happiness.
- Be present in your daily life, make time for what you truly want and find more ways to get involved.
- Ways to change your mindset about work, so that you don’t dread it even when you’re doing work that you love.
I’ll end with a quote that I really love: