Are you one of ‘those’ people?


Have you heard of the show Downton Abbey?

The show is about a British aristocratic family and their servants, set in the days before World War I. (**The rest of this paragraph is a spoiler**) The youngest daughter, Sybil, is helping Gwen, one of the young housemaids, to find a job as a secretary. After Gwen didn’t get the first job she interviewed for she wanted to give up, but Sybil kept pushing her to keep trying.

In one scene, Gwen says “you don’t get it. You’re all brought up to think it’s all within your grasp, that if you want something enough it will come to you. But we’re not like that. We don’t think our dreams are bound to come true because they almost never do.”

Sybil replied, “then that’s why we must stick together. Your dream is my dream now. I’ll make it come true.”

This scene is one that has motivated me my entire life.

I always asked myself, “why do some people live their dreams, and others don’t?” At first I thought like Gwen did, that certain people made their dreams happen while ‘the rest of us’ didn’t. But as I learned about famous people, CEOs, business leaders and others who live extraordinary lives, I found that it wasn’t about money, about resources, or about luck.

It all came down to what each person believed.

We’ve seen countless examples of people who made a way out of no way – people who started with nothing and changed their lives.

So I want you to stop waiting for these circumstances to come into your life, because the greatest asset you have is time. Once that’s wasted, you can’t get it back – no matter how much money you have or who your parents are.

The only thing that separates the Gwens from the Sybils are the thoughts they believe about themselves and the actions they take based on those thoughts.

Which one will you decide to be today? Will you decide that only ‘certain people’ get what they want out of life – and you’re not one of them? Or will you decide that you’ll make your dreams come true?

By the way, Gwen got the job on the third try, thanks to Sybil. She wouldn’t let her friend quit and she totally believed in her. Ultimately Gwen started to believe too.

Is it all within your grasp? Do you want it enough to make it come true?

7 thoughts on “Are you one of ‘those’ people?

  1. Yes! I want to be a Sybil for myself and for my friends! Honestly, I have my Gwen days. :-) One of the awesome points is that Sybil most likely have a ton of support that fueled her belief. I’m a believer is surrounding ourselves with supporters who see the best we can be… and help us to get there. It can be family or colleagues or friends or even blogs, like this one.

    Ms. Arneus! Thanks for being my Sybil on many days!

    Keep up the good work.

    -Gee James
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    1. you’re welcome sir! Thanks for stopping by.

      Actually Sybil didn’t have support. Her family scoffed at her ideas and flat out told her she was foolish for what she believed in, and forbade her for alot of her actions. She was also discouraged from doing anything beyond trying to catch a husband. But she fought for what she believed in anyway.

  2. I love this post, and I need to be watching this show… I wonder if it’s on netflix.

    I do believe that you can make things happen for yourself if you believe. I think something I do struggle with is wanting things for other people. It’s hard to be someone’s Sybil ALL the time. I have people around me that I see great potential in, but I can’t want something more for someone than they want it for themselves. In this situation, Gwen was applying/interviewing. I know people who don’t even do that. Where do we draw the line of being supportive and giving too much?

  3. I’ve never seen Downton Abbey, but I hear it’s an amazing show. This Gwen/Sybil concept solidifies that; how powerful. I also love the concept that we all have the same amount of time, and once it’s gone, it’s gone, no matter who you are. I’ve been using to set goals and get reminders about what I want out of life and it’s really helped me get better about NOT squandering my time away. Maybe it will help you too!

  4. I lovvvvvvveee your writing! When ever I need strength, believe it or not, I turn to motivated Sista to get me moving onward again. One day u sent me a letter via mail and those words was blowing me away. I was getting liberate something serious. All to you! Thanks for all the hard work that u do for us ladies. Kisses to You!

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