I’m not feeling it today, y’all.
On most days, I’m full of energy. I’m excited, I’m motivated, I’m in a great mood, I’m optimistic and hopeful. In my mind’s eye, my dreams loom largely on the horizon.
Today I feel tired. I’m a bit down and my goals seem far away. I can’t laugh and joke as easily as I usually do. I feel disconnected from my dreams. And for today, that’s ok.
We can’t be on it every day. We’re not robots or Energizer Bunnies that can keep going and going. Sometimes we have setbacks that knock us off stride. Or sometimes our bodies, minds and spirits are not in alignment and the friction is exhibited through our emotions.
How To Recharge Your Batteries
When I feel like this, the first thing I usually do is acknowledge my emotions and how my body feels. Its ok for me to be tired, for me to have a day or two where I’m a little blue, or not as happy or optimistic. What’s not ok, though, is for me to have a prolonged period of time in this state. That means that there’s something serious going on that I need to further examine.
But its not that serious today. I usually go through several steps to get back to my motivated self:
- Be nice to myself. I don’t beat myself up for not being able to work at full capacity. What I’m able to accomplish at a slower pace is enough. And if I’m not productive today, that’s ok too. I’d rather work when I’m up to it then force myself and have crappy results. Sometimes I just need a break and there’s no point in beating myself up about it. That solves absolutely nothing and in the long run being mean to myself doesn’t make me feel good.
- Ask myself what’s wrong. (hey, my granny said it was only crazy if you answered yourself back… talking to yourself is ok lol) There’s usually a reason for a mood change: lack of sleep/fatigue, not eating properly, unresolved feelings after an event, mental fatigue etc. The longer I let myself sit and stew without getting to the heart of the problem, the longer it takes for me to get back on track and ultimately reach my goals.
- Do something that makes me happy. If reminding myself of reasons why I should be happy don’t work, my failsafe is always laughter. I’ll watch fail videos on Youtube, head over to Failblog, Lamebook or People of Walmart. Hey, it may not be nice to laugh at others, but it makes me feel better (I’m just sayin’). Or, once I get home from work, I’ll curl up with a good book or indulge in one of my vices. That usually makes me feel better too.
- Give myself some TLC. I find that alot of times, this funky mood is my mind and/or body’s way of telling me to take a break. Its much better than getting sick as a way to slow me down, so I’ve learned to listen to my body. I’ll probably take a long bubble back, turn in early and eat great meals today. If I can, I’ll squeeze in a short meditation session to give my mind a break from constantly working.
- Refocus on the end result. It’s easy to feel tired and discouraged when striving for my goals, when I stop looking forward and look at where I’m currently standing. Suddenly my goals seem far away and out of focus. Instead of dwelling on where I am and how far I have to go, I do a few things to focus only on the end result. I look at my vision board to visualize myself having achieved my goals and generate the feelings of already having reached them. I’ll sometimes go back through my journal and congratulate myself on the steps I’ve taken so far. I also find it helpful to think about my why: why am I striving for these goals? What will they bring to my life, why is that important to me? How will my life change? Asking these questions definitely centers me and helps me put things into perspective.
One or two days of not being at my best is not a crime. A sense of perspective and reminding myself that its not the end of the world or my productivity is one of the best things I do for myself.
What do you usually do to recharge your batteries, when you’re not having a good day?