Feel the Fear . . . and Do It Anyway
by Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.
My old roommate recommended this book to me a while back and I never read it. I can’t really say why I was reluctant to pick it up, but I was. I guess I didn’t really see myself as fearful of anything. Boy was I wrong! I think the issue was also that the majority of ‘self-help’ books don’t really provide the tools for you to help yourself solve problems. More likely than not, the author just regurgitates the same ineffective advice that other authors have shared, or the book doesn’t really give tools at all, just words of motivation. But this book is different.Feel the Fear . . . and Do It Anyway delivers on its promise of “dynamic techniques for turning fear, indecision, and anger into power, action and love”. I absolutely love this book and feel that it would be a great resource if you decide to read it too.
- Why I wanted to read this book: my friend recommended it
- Premise of the book:whenever you start something new and unfamiliar, you will experience fear. We must get used to feeling this fear, because it never goes away. Avoiding fear is a defense mechanism that we’ve all adopted to protect ourselves from what we perceive as a painful situation. But avoiding our fears holds us back from personal growth and is ultimately destructive.
- You should read it if: you want to implement changes in your life, you’re embarking on new goals or your progress on a specific goal has stalled and you can’t figure out why
- You shouldn’t read it if: self-help books aren’t your ‘thing’
Jeffers shows you how to change your perspective on fear and take control of your life. She also gives you tools to overcome the negative, destructive thoughts that keep you bound in a place of helplessness. The best part for me was that she writes about changing your mindset in order to command control of your destiny, which is so important and one of my core beliefs. In addition, she shows you how to stop blaming others, stop blaming yourself, and just get er done! This was a very empowering book and once I read some others on my list, I will be going back for my 2nd read.
Points I took away from the book:
- how to deal with loved ones and friends who don’t want you to change
- how to create the support system that you want
- don’t be hard on yourself if you’re initially unsuccessful when testing out something new
- how to stop indecision and fear surrounding a ‘big’ decision
- how to have a whole life so you won’t feel needy
- accept the things that happen in your life and let go of resistance to external events
- ways to silence the chatterbox of our conscious mind
If you have read Feel the Fear . . . and Do It Anyway, or go on to read it after this review, let me know what you think and if it helps you to make progress in your life.