Do You Know When To Ask For Help?

Yesterday, I had a blog consultation with Annabel Candy from Get In The Hot Spot. If you’re not familiar with Annabel’s blog, she writes about how you can integrate blogging, social media, and personal development to increase your business success.

Not only was Annabel’s advice awesome (seriously y’all, she rocked my world!) but I learned a valuable lesson about business that I want to pass on to you.

Know When To Fold ‘Em

Hate to toot my own horn here (actually, I don’t… but you know what I’m sayin’), but I consider myself an expert on motivation.

I’m NOT an expert on blogging, leveraging my blog content, increasing traffic, or social media.

As smart as I am, I fell into the dumb trap of thinking I could figure it all out on my own. And as women, and solo entrepreneurs, some of us often do that. We’re so used to working on projects and tackling problems alone that we attempt to answer questions and find solutions that are outside our areas of expertise.


Time really is more valuable than money to me. If I had the time to answer every question and implement every idea that I had, I’m sure I’d make buckets of money. But I don’t have that kind of time to invest. So I admitted that I was wasting time trying to find answers to my questions and asked Annabel to bring her expertise to the improvements I want to make.

Don’t Make It An Issue Of Your Pride

I physically can’t know or do everything. So me reaching out to someone to make something better is not me being incompetent.

It may sound foolish but I had to wrap my brain around that one.

And then I thought about it like this: I ask a personal trainer how to lift weights, I read cookbooks to learn new recipes and techniques and I have a stylist cut my hair. That doesn’t mean I suck at working out, cooking our doing my hair. That just means I rely on someone who’s more knowledgeable about those things than I am.

My pride was not stung by this. I didn’t have to swallow it at all. This isn’t about my pride because its about me getting better. I want to improve more than I want to be right about something.

I’ve let pride hold me back from reaching out to others before. And each time I did that, I was the one that suffered, not the other person. I wish I can go back and redo those moments, I’d be so much farther along right now. But dwelling on those kinds of thoughts don’t help me – its time to move forward.

What This Means For You

If you’re working on something, and you can maximize your time and efforts, don’t hesitate to reach out to others to help you. I’m including myself in that. If there’s a way I can use my expertise at coaching, goal setting and motivation to help you get farther along your journey, I’d be happy to do so.

I get so much satisfaction and fulfillment from seeing other ambitious women succeed. I’m rooting for your success just as hard as I’m rooting for mine. I truly believe that there are more than enough blessings for all of us, and we can all succeed without detriment to each other.

In what ways can you reach out to others, to maximize your success? Have you done so recently? I’d love to hear about it.

4 thoughts on “Do You Know When To Ask For Help?

  1. Hi Anilia, it was great to speak to you too and work out a plan of attack to take Motivated Sista to the next level.

    Your point is a good one. Often I don’t ask for help because I’m being stubborn or penny pinching but when we do reach out for professional advice it really helps us get a fresh pair of eyes on the problem, come up with clear idea and stay motivated too.

    I’m looking forward to watching this blog grow and evolve:)
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    1. Tamara, when I say that pride has held me back… I mean it! I always wanted to prove that “I can do it myself!” Which I definitely CAN… when its something I’m good at. I can’t possibly be good at everything, so its only my detriment that I don’t rely on an expert.

      There are certain things we’ve ‘been there and done that’ and of course we should be proud of ourselves. But the flip side of the coin is always being willing to learn, grow and adapt. And just thinking that we can make it 100% alone is a hindrance to that growth.

  2. Anilia…this came right on time. Your article was the 4th or 5th thing I’ve heard or read about in the last week that talks about the importance of delegating (okay God I hear you!). :-)

    Like many, I’d developed this superwoman complex like there was honor in doing everything by myself. I’ve been given a big vision and need people onboard to help me fulfill it.

    Keep the great posts coming. I’m off to draft some “help wanted” copy for marketing, creative and administrative interns. :-)
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