What Is The Cost Of Fear?

What is fear?

Wikipedia says that

Fear is an emotional response to a threat. It is a basic survival mechanism occurring in response to a specific stimulus, such as pain or the threat of danger. Some psychologists such as John B. Watson, Robert Plutchik, and Paul Ekman have suggested that fear is one of a small set of basic or innate emotions. This set also includes such emotions as joy, sadness, and anger. Fear should be distinguished from the related emotional state of anxiety, which typically occurs without any external threat. Additionally, fear is related to the specific behaviors of escape and avoidance, whereas anxiety is the result of threats which are perceived to be uncontrollable or unavoidable.

 

Let me tell you what fear is.

 

Fear is continuing to stand still, even though your path is before you, because you don’t want to make a false step.

 

Fear is procrastinating to do a task, because you can’t control everything about its execution or outcome.

 

Fear is shying away from the negative opinion of others.

 

Fear is deferring and delaying your dreams.

 

Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.

 

The signs of fear

When you are experiencing fear around a dream or goal, this is different from when you’re doubtful of an outcome. With fear, you have a stronger, deeper negative emotional response, especially if the goal is something that you really really want. You act irrationally in your attempt to evade the situation that’s causing your fear, and you often act in direct opposition to accomplishing the goal itself. Whereas doubt around an outcome may be mere reluctance, hesitation, or skepticism. You’ll still get it done – although when  your mind is in a doubtful state, you’ll probably manifest doubtful results.

 

Fear is something I struggle with personally. I like to think its the fear of success, but honestly, the type of fear I feel doesn’t matter. I will find all sorts of reasons why a goal is not possible – I don’t know the right people, I don’t have the money, I’m too old, I’m too young, and on and on. I’ll rationalize it perfectly in my mind and it’ll make so much sense. But deep down all of this side-stepping doesn’t negate the deep desire I have in my heart.

 

This is one area where I find it helpful to have those things that motivate me, such as inspiring books, audio MP3s, websites and quotes. Also, this is a prime example of having solid friends backing you, because my close friends don’t hesitate to pull my card and don’t allow me to BS about a dream. In their own way they support me and encourage me to keep going when I’m feeding into the fear. And most important is actually knowing why you want to accomplish that goal. The end result will shine like a beacon light ahead of you when you lose your way. You just have to practice mustering the strength to step back on the path you already set out on.

 

One of the principles that I rely on lately is the thought that I never want to look back on my life and say “I wish I would’ve done that.” Regret is a stronger negative emotion for me than fear. It boils down to another way to motivate myself to press on. There are so many external factors that hold us back in life; you don’t want the thing that stands between you and your accomplishments to be your own mind.

 

The cost of fear

After all, the cost of fear is high.

 

Fear will leave you stranded in the same ‘box’ that others put you in.

 

Fear will multiply and grow, and the fear you felt at meeting new people will turn into fear of leaving your home, fear of criminals out to harm you and other magnified fears.

 

Fear will leave you unhealthy, unhappy and broke.

 

Fear will leave you as a shell of the intelligent, ambitious woman that you are inside.

 

None of these places are where I want to be. I’ve seen the cost of fear in my own life and as hard as it is, I know I must march through it. So what is fear costing you? Tell me how you’ve overcome a fear, or the ways in which you’re currently working through a fear you have.

4 thoughts on “What Is The Cost Of Fear?

  1. Thank you for this post. Fear paralyzes us. Fear of God is the only useful type of fear.

    To put it in biblical terms:

    Thus, one can see how fearing God should be encouraged. However, the second type of fear mentioned in the Bible is not beneficial at all. This is the “spirit of fear” mentioned in 2 Timothy 1:7: “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind” (NKJV). A spirit of fearfulness and timidity does not come from God.

    With that said, I will not be afraid. I am going to kick, push, and fight my way through it. I won’t relent!!!

    I LOVE it!!! I am encouraged not to fear!!!

  2. I enjoyed reading this post. I often speak to woman, mothers, wives about this topic of fear. It is so deadly. We can never have enough woman to write on this topic. We need to continue to motivate each other. Back in December of last year, I wrote a blog post on fear also. After speaking to a woman that spit out so many false objectives as to why she could not move forward with her endeavors. Below is the closing to that post:

    No matter what successes you have, there will always be fear trying to come through the window. You get that investor. Guess what? Fear will still be there. You become a big hit. Guess what? Fear will still be there. You overcome all the naysayers. Guess what? Fear will still be there. Guess what? Fear cannot have any power over you, because you will build your confidence by knowing that you have what it takes to become a success and that you have something to offer and people will want it. So what am I saying? Get that fear out, because you got work to do. Financial freedom is at the door. Your sense of peace is at the door.

    If interested in reading the post in its entirety, follow this link http://smellgoodspa.blogspot.com/2008/12/fearfearfearfear.html

    1. Thank you for sharing that Itiel. Yes fear never goes away. I think we tend to look at others and don’t appreciate that we all experience fear. We’ll see an entrepreneur with a successful business and feel like, since that sista doesn’t appear fearful, that she blazes ahead at 100 miles an hour, that there’s something wrong with us because we have fear. But like you said it never goes away (I love that the title of your post is Fear.FeAr.FEAR.fEaR). And that maybe she’s conquered fear and pushing through it anyway…

      I’ll definitely write on this topic again, because its one that I’m finally ‘coming around’ on.

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