One thing I love about being so motivated is coming up with new ideas, and finding ways to use my talents on projects that I want to work on. I hate the feeling of being handed something you don’t want to do, and feeling powerless about the results you must produce.
But at the same time, that intense motivation backfires on me. With strong ambition and wanting to do alot of things, comes scheduling problems that make it impractical to work on everything at once.
And as I’m feeling this time crunch, I’m also thinking about what I’m not doing with my time – hanging out with friends, seeing family and cultivating my love life.
Sometimes I wonder if women like me can really have it all?
Or must we sacrifice success in order to have a family? Is it possible to do both simultaneously?
What this really boils down to is, why are there so many successful, driven, single women?
What is it that other women know that we don’t? How should be better use our time and resources? What’s the key to having success in every facet of your life?
Well, dear readers, this isn’t one of those posts where I have a clear-cut answer for you. I’m still finding my way with this one too. I get so frustrated sometimes with all of us saying the same things: “is chivalry dead? Where are all the good men? How did she get married and I didn’t? Why am I still single?”
What really kills me is that people reply to these questions with empty platitudes that do nothing to shed light on the situation. If I hear “it’s not your time/ you’re still young/ marriage isn’t the be-all and end-all/ half of all marriages end in divorce (why doesn’t anyone point out that half of all marriages are successful?)/ just pray on it/ you have to prepare for a husband” – if I hear any of those again I just may scream!(These people usually have a warm pair of thighs waiting for them at home, making this empty advice even more infuriating.)
This is one of those times where I’m asking for your advice and opinions, because I’m not feeling it. It’s one thing to say “go out, you won’t meet anyone at home” when you have so much going on at the end of the week – working your day job, running your business so you can quit your day job, social activities/commitments, family relationships, maybe even children – when is alla dat men finding supposed to happen?
I just wanted to rant a little. I’d love to read your input on this.