Become Who You Are


I just read something that inspired me to write this post.

We are all hoping something we do in this world matters. That what we create will stay with people forever. As Steve Jobs, the infamous founder of Apple Computers, once said, we all long to “put a dent in the universe.” To leave some kind of impact on this ball of dirt.

But most of us, tragically, won’t.

We’re afraid of the cost. Worried we don’t have what it takes. Anxious of the road it takes to get to greatness. So we play it safe and abide by the rules. Before we start, we sabotage our work and subvert our genius.

And how, pray tell, do we do this? With words. Subtle but serious words that kill your passion before you can pursue it. Words like “aspiring” and “wannabe”. Words like “I wish” and “someday”.

There is a solution to this. A simple but hard way of facing your fears and living the dream: Become who you are.

Jeff Goins, You Are A Writer (So Start Acting Like One)

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We are up against the end of another year. Did you accomplish what you set out to accomplish this year?

I didn’t. And that’s ok.

I’d lost touch with my writing. I’d lost my voice. I got so caught up in what I ‘should’ be doing with Motivated Sista, what I ‘could’ be doing… that I forgot the point. I forgot why I started this blog and why I sat down to write in the first place.

I wanted to make a difference. I wanted my voice to be heard.

I wanted to be ‘the female Les Brown’ and inspire people to live the lives they dreamed of. But along the way, I got caught up in how to turn this passion of mine into a business. I could be a coach! I said. So many other people are doing that, it can’t be that hard, right? So I set everything up, created a coaching program, and learned how to market myself. I started working with clients.

And then the disappointments came rolling in.

Out of the blue, I got a call from a young woman who was burning with passion to help others. She shared her vision with me. We cried on the phone together. I gave her an outline of how she could make her dream happen, and asked her to stay in touch. I never heard from her again.

It seemed that every time I opened my email, I had messages saying “help me, I want to reach this goal but I’m scared. I have no money, I don’t know what to do.” After addressing those questions over and over, I started to feel like I wasn’t helping anyone. No matter what I said or did, it just wasn’t happening for people.

And this led to writers’ block.

I’d just stare at the computer screen, and words would not come. I tried writing on paper first – something I never do – and that didn’t help either. “I’ll just write when I’m inspired,” I said. “No one’s reading my blog now anyway.”

My girl Patrenia at Personal Finance Notebook would ask me, “so have you written anything today? What are you working on?” and I’d just say “nah, not yet.” And change the subject.

Then Rosetta over at Happy Black Woman hit me with this:

I felt guilty. But I didn’t know what to say to you.

I wasn’t feeling motivated. I wasn’t successful. And I wasn’t helping people.

But I’ve realized where I went wrong: I became disconnected from my purpose. I forgot who I really was.

I’m already a writer. I’m already a motivational speaker. And I’m already helping people. I don’t need to ‘become’ anything.

This is what I want you to realize today: you already are who you want to be. If you have that burning passion to bring your vision to the world, you’re already the visionary you dream about being one day.

The only thing standing between you and your dream is fear.

So what will it take for you to become who you dream of being? What’s standing in your way of exclaiming to the world “this is who I am!” Let’s talk about it in the comments below.

9 thoughts on “Become Who You Are

  1. I just read this tweet by Mastin Kipp today, “Just remember, every thought leader, every life coach, every mentor, every guru is here to learn what they teach and share.” After reading this awesome, post I realize that his words are very true. These words, “You are already who you want to be”, are words that you shared with me many, many months ago…and I NEVER forgot them. Those words inspired me to move forward with my hopes and dreams. For that, I say…THANK YOU! I’m sooooo glad you’re back…We need YOU! :-)

  2. Thank you for this post! It was just what I needed to see today. I’ve been dealing with my own writers block and going in circles about what I ‘should be doing’ or need to be. But, its true that we already have the answers and don’t need to search for something that is already within us. Great post and glad that you reconnected with your purpose!
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  3. This is a great post. While I don’t agree that we have to “do” anything to make a “dent in the Universe” – by simple existing because we’re all Spirit, we’re already (and always) making dents in the Universe – a lot of what you said here is really wonderful.

    I love this idea that we already are what we seek, and that this journey isn’t about crafting ourselves into something that doesn’t exist yet. This journey is about coming more into our own power, and recognizing what and who we already are. This is also a really great mentality when you think of all the people who are different from you and it’s not about trying to be like them, but being you. Which is hard when it feels like certain characteristics, talents or habits are preferred over others.

    But, this was really awesome. I loved this.

  4. Thanks so much for this post!!! I have been suffering a slight block myself, after reading this I’m motivated to continue becoming who I am…

  5. I really appreciate this post as it helps to take off the layer of anxiety that some of us put on ourselves because we can figure “it” out…as in…who we are when all we have to do is look right in the mirror. I think it also comes from a lack of self love. A lot of us spend so much time trying to be and do what others are doing because we see that it works for them…when those individuals were just themselves but still gave their audience what they wanted. If you know what your readers want and you know and love who you are…your readers will love you too.

  6. This is my first time visiting your website and it only took one post to decide whether or not I should subscribe. Your words were right on time for me. You’re right…God knew me before I was even in the womb! He knew my destiny. He knew my purpose. And, all these years, I’ve just been trying to catch up. The closer I walk with Him, the more in-tune with myself I become. I mean, who knows the product’s purpose better than the creator? Thanks, Anilia.

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