Why is it such a big deal to talk about money?
It’s the one of the things everyone wants more of, and one of the things everyone needs to survive in this world.
Yet people will look down on you if you say you want to be rich.
Honestly, most people don’t even want money. They want enriched experiences (such as vacations, the ability to learn something new, access to things that can’t currently access) or a better quality of life (bigger house, better food, less hard work).
The irony is – as long as you run from conversations about money, you’ll have a hard time making it in your business.
Your Childhood Set You Up To Fail
It’s not fair to blame our parents for the negative money mindsets we might have been raised with. They simply taught us what they knew. Our society as a whole does not cultivate a healthy awareness of and relationship with money.
Add to that the fact that some major religions don’t have good things to say about wealthy people. There’s no surprise that some of the most devout are some of the poorest on earth. I’m sure you’ve heard the Bible verse “It is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of heaven.“
(There’s some debate about what that passage actually means. Click here to read about it.)
It’s also amazing to me that we learn such complicated math theories in school, such as the Pythagorean theorem… yet we’re never taught how to balance a checkbook or develop our own household budget.
We’re all thrust into the world of money once we graduate high school. And there are a small, lucky few who make it past the age of 22 unscathed.
False Beliefs About Money
Here are 5 of the most common false beliefs you were likely taught about money as a child:
Money is the root of all evil. This teaches children that wanting money is bad. In comparison, wanting things more ‘noble’ than money is good.
What actually causes evil, though? Is it money?Or is it a willful mind to do evil?
People have taken this out of context; the quote is actually “the love of money is the root of all evil.” Why is it wrong to love money? It is the source of comfort and provision.
What is really evil is doing harm to others. That happens whether money is involved or not.
Lastly, there are religious examples where “sowing what you reap” is looked upon favorably by God, such as the Parable of the Talents. So there are positive examples of money not being evil.
More money, more problems. The fact remains that money doesn’t solve every problem. There are, however, types of stress that disappear when money is involved, such as hunger, medical bills, transportation problems and poor education.
What people are actually worried about here is whether people will view them differently once they obtain money. If you knew your family and friends would see you negatively once you gained wealth, you wouldn’t do it. The human need for love is one of the strongest urges known to mankind. For most people, more money won’t override that urge.
You have to work hard for your money. If you’ve ever worked in corporate America you know this to be a myth. Generally speaking, the higher you go in a company, the less work an employee does. So those who get paid the least work the hardest.
We now live in an age where information is what makes you money. Not only from generating new ideas, but also from implementing and improving upon or modifying new ideas. The value doesn’t lie in the work per se but in the new offering in the marketplace.
In addition, very few people want to work harder than they already do. So more money, under this circumstance, is definitely not appealing.
“I’d rather be happy than be rich.” I’m not sure where the idea comes from that this has to be either/or. I’ve never heard of a rich person pledging to be unhappy. This is like saying “I’d rather be happy than be healthy” or “I’d rather be happy than religious.” None of these things are mutually exclusive.
There is also this notion that “money can’t buy love.” Money can’t buy time either (as well as a host of other intangibles, like common sense) but that does not mean money should be rejected.
And of course, there’s everyone’s favorite, go to school – get a good job life plan. We can’t really fault our parents for this one.
They were raised in a post-World War II society that thrived off of a strong work force. Unfortunately, the days of working for 40 years and getting a gold watch for being a faithful company man/woman are long gone.
I fully recognize that everyone is not cut out for entrepreneurship. Some people just don’t desire to be their own boss, and that’s fine. There are a growing number of us however that want to be autonomous and have the time and location freedom that an online business can provide.
With “job security” being a notion of the past, in today’s economy its smart to cultivate a range of skills that you can not only use in the workplace – but also in service of yourself, if you choose to go that route.
How To Heal Your Relationship With Money
There are three resources that changed my relationship with money and helped me start believing that I deserve the type of lifestyle I dream about. If you struggle to manifest money in your life, I urge you to immerse yourself in books and audios that will educate you about what money REALLY is.
Think And Grow Rich – read online for free
The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles
Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki
If you haven’t done so, click here for my “Listen and Grow Rich” post with more free resources.